Planning a wedding can be stressful, but add in the pressure of pulling off a second wedding and you may just feel as though you’ll lose all of your hair by the end of it. Worrying about etiquette and what others think is probably at the forefront of your minds, no matter what your past entails. But have no fear, we’re slicing through three of the most common questions today to ease that anxiety.
There are so many different ways to navigate this kind of celebration. Second weddings can be memorable, fun, joyful, over-the-top beautiful, and stress-free too. Let’s have a look at some of these questions – with answers – while you take notes and start your prep off without too many worries.
Three Of The Most Common Second Wedding Questions Answered
“Should I – Can I – Wear White?”
This is one of the most popular questions and provides some of the most anxiety.
In our opinion, every bride deserves to wear white, but this is the venue to take even more of a risk if you so choose. Overall, you should feel beautiful, confident, and comfortable.
So, if you want to wear a princess-style ball gown, do it. If you want to wear a sexy, black, red-carpet-worthy design, do it. Or, if you want to rock a mint green, ethereal dress, go for it!
This is all about your vision, and your comfort. Our biggest advice is that it fits you nicely and appropriately. Tailoring is of the utmost importance. To let you in on a personal secret, our most favorite color choices for more sophisticated brides include blush, powder blue, gold, and silver.
“How Should We Include The Children?”
Firstly, make sure you tell the kids first. They don’t want to hear the news through the grapevine, and we suggest letting them know that you want them apart of the big day when you do it. And thankfully, there are so many beautiful ways to have them included!
How you want them incorporated will depend on their age. Younger children can act as ring bearers and flower girls. Whereas older kids can be a part of the bridal party, walk Mom or Dad down the aisle, or even address the guests during the ceremony with a passage reading or at the reception with a toast.
Brainstorm with the children. Ask what they’re comfortable with – if anything – and help them figure out their perfect role. This is where you can easily personalize the day to truly make it feel like a family affair.
“Should We Register For Gifts?”
The short answer is, you can if you want to. Our advice is that you don’t go overboard, especially if most of the people coming to this wedding came to the first and provided a gift.
At this stage in life, you probably have most of those necessities and it’s not fair to ask more of your guests (this goes doubly for destination weddings or those having to spend extra to come from out-of-town).
It’s always nice to have a small registry to choose from – even if you make it clear that gifts are not necessary and that you just want their company at the event. It makes it easier for family and friends who really want to spoil you to get quick ideas for useful items.