Getting remarried and concerned about doing it “the right way”? Planning a wedding should be a source of joy, not stress, whether the first, second or “Elizabeth Taylor” time around. The following etiquette guide will help you plan your wedding with confidence and ease. Enjoy!
The Dress
Many second-time brides ask if it’s okay to wear white. The short answer? Absolutely! Whether you want to wear a white gown with all the trimmings or go for something else that’s more “you,” remember that it’s your wedding, so do what you want. Opt for a veil or other headpiece, such as a wide-brimmed hat or floral wreath.
Theme
Think you have to go the “toned-down” route in terms of venue and theme? You don’t! While most second weddings include smaller guest lists, there’s no reason not to throw a big shindig if that’s what you like. It’s your glorious union–don’t hold back, baby!
Gifts
Is it appropriate to register for gifts? You betcha. While you may not have use for a second waffle iron or two extra juicers, you can still create a registry of stuff you need. This can include fun things such as camping equipment and scuba gear, money towards your honeymoon, or donations towards a favorite charity.
Marriage License
The same rules apply, though this time you’ll need your divorce papers or certificate of death, whichever is applicable. Call your local county clerk’s office to learn specifics.
Prenups
Discuss this option with your lawyer if wealthy, own property or have the financial future of children to think about. Yes, it’s not the most pleasant subject ever, but it’s good to have the protection.
Premarital Counseling
This is often helpful in regards to easing fears over past mistakes. It will also give you a better idea of each other’s expectations.
Honeymoon
Of course you should have a honeymoon! You’re starting a new chapter in your life–what’s not to celebrate? If you feel you absolutely must bring the spawn, you can, or you can plan a separate family trip. This is a great way to get new family members to connect.
Married with Children
It’s important to ensure your children feel special and part of your second marriage ceremony, yes? Check out a few tips for bringing them into the wedding planning fold:
- Flower girl, ring bearer, junior bridesmaid…ask them if they want to do any of these things. Most of the time, they’ll be really excited about the opportunity!
- Trust them with responsibilities such as handing out programs and favors.
- Have them join you at the alter and recite special family vows.
Whatever you decide to do, remember to have fun!!
