Honestly, I really can’t get enough of this wedding. Actually, I think it is the couple themselves that is so fascinating. It is their their clear and obvious love for each other, their recognition of the importance of marriage and the simplistic beauty of their wedding that I find so compelling.
In her words, here’s more about Rosalind (who wore a gown by Domo Adami) and Jonas’ wedding, which was held on December 31st, 2008 in Cafayate, Argentina.
How you knew he was the one:
He is the safest place I have ever found to leave my heart.
One day he told me to meet him down on Oak Street after work. And there he was, standing in front of Harry Winston, with a smile on his face. We had a private room with champagne and chocolates and there, he presented me with the Briar Patch design ring and asked me to marry him. And I said “Yes!”
The ceremony was the most important part of it all because the rest is just pageantry. Fun pageantry, to be sure, but we wanted a ceremony that really honored the *marriage* as opposed to being the motions you have to get through before you get to the bar. I spent almost no time worrying or thinking about the reception (and left that in the utterly capable hands of our amazing wedding coordinator, Trinidad!). However, the ceremony we spent a lot of time thinking about.
We didn’t want a bridal party because with a wedding of only 30 guests who travelled over 10,000 miles to attend our wedding, it seemed wrong somehow to segregate certain people as more important. We wanted to make the statement that every single person who was there was important to us and thy were *all* our honored attendants. We did have our only niece who was there as the flower girl and that was perfect. We also wanted my father to perform the ceremony. We both feel very close to my father and felt that we wanted someone to perform the ceremony who knew us and would not give a generic view of marriage, but rather a personal look at what our journey could be together. We also wanted to walk in together since we wanted to underscore the idea that we come to this place together, that this is a journey and a decision we made together. And we both wrote our own vows because it was important to us that the promise we make to each other were our own words, not someone else’s. Writing those vows was challenging for both of us, but in the end we were both happy that we did because it helped both of us to articulate a love and a promise in a way that standard vows would not have for us.
Everything else about the ceremony was very simple. There was no decor, per se, because we felt that the venue (hacienda at the vineyard) was everything we could want it to be. We got married under the arch of entrance to the hacienda with an old bell overhead and the mountain directly behind us in view of all of our guests. I didn’t carry flowers and we didn’t do programs or anything like that. Just a simple gathering of family and friends.
It was a fantastic night of dancing and partying on a patio under the stars until 4 am! We served a traditional Argentine BBQ called an Asado dinner and some wonderful wines from the vineyard.
Favorite detail about the reception:
We didn’t have a ton of decor, but the touches we had were wonderful… I loved the strands of little white lights hung over the patio area. I also loved the fireworks at midnight that the vineyard surprised us with!
Advice for other brides
Don’t ever let your wedding matter more than your marriage.