Celebrity power couples are all about renewing their vows, a trend that continues to gain momentum around Hollywood and everywhere else.
Couples such as Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon, LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian, Victoria and David Beckham, and Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt have all renewed their vows at some point during their unions. Numerous other celebrity couples who ended up divorcing have also held vow renewal ceremonies, including Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott, Heidi Klum and Seal, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom, and Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony.
Author Sharon Naylor, who has penned over 35 wedding planning books, notes on her blog that these ceremonies are necessary in today’s “fast-paced world, where we all have other things clamoring for our attention … otherwise the cherished partner can feel like an appliance or some taken-for-granted, almost invisible, entity in the house.”
Although Klum and her crooner husband’s marriage ended after seven years, they renewed their vows every year of their time together. They also went the themed route, and turned each renewal into a big party/celebration. While this is a fun and lovely concept, some argue that vow renewal ceremonies should be reserved for marriage milestones, such as 10, 20, 30, etc. years together.
“Those who have chosen to renew wedding vows are essentially then re-infusing their marriage with the reminder of what it meant to get married in the first place,” says Southern California Rabbi Glenn Ettman. “A good time to do this would be at a significant anniversary … or perhaps after a life-altering moment.”
Another common question regarding vow renewals is whether to host a “big blow-out,” as per Klum and Seal, or if a more intimate ceremony featuring only close family and friends is best.
“Weddings or vow renewals never have to be lavish affairs — what is important is the meaning of the ceremony itself and the important feelings of the union between the two people involved,” says Rabbi Ettman.
And what about rings? Is it necessary to buy new baubles for the occasion, or stick with what you’ve got? Some couples enjoy exchanging rings, however plenty of other options are available regarding gifts.
What do you think about vow renewal ceremonies? Are they an “I do” or an “I don’t”?