Movie stars do it. The Real Housewives are doing it. Vow renewal is more popular than ever in part due to reality TV.
Sure, celebrities might be renewing their vows for publicity, however it’s still an opportunity to throw a BIG party, and of course take an amazing, once-in-a-lifetime vacation.
Many couples considering vow renewal want that big wedding they couldn’t afford the first time, and now have the opportunity and money to enjoy the lavish wedding and honeymoon of their dreams.
Besides, you’ve made it through careers, kids, moves, assorted ups and downs, and still managed to stay together.
Now that’s something to celebrate!
While you’ve probably already seen numerous “do” lists concerning vow renewal, check out a few of the “don’ts”!
Too Soon
While there isn’t a specific time line for vow renewals, renewing too soon isn’t as special and makes it look like you want to Say Yes to Another Dress. For best results, wait for an important anniversary (10, 25, 50 years), or renew during another meaningful time in your life.
What to Wear
Yes, vow renewal is an opportunity to dress up, but it’s best to go the “scaled-down” route if opting for an actual wedding dress. Don’t wear a white ball gown or veil – it’s overkill, and you haven’t been a blushing bride for sometime! Instead, go for a classy sheath or a fit and flare gown in a cream or light color. You don’t have to skip on the flowers, either– a simple bouquet and corsage are ideal.
Hosting
Yes, you can host the event, but you can also have your children do it! However, if you want a big event and everything to happen a particular way, host your vow renewal yourself.
Officiating
Since a vow renewal isn’t a legal ceremony, you don’t need a priest or other official to preside over the event. Anyone can officiate your vow renewal, such as your children or best friends.
Location
Renewing your vows in a big church is a bit much, so the party venue or smaller chapel will suffice. Beaches and cruises are popular vow renewal locations, and combine the ceremony with a fantastic trip. It also allows for a destination wedding if you wanted one the first time.
Honeymoon
Honeymoons are bigger and better the second time around. You don’t have to “escape” either–second honeymoons are a great time when you include friends. Turn your vow renewal into a week-long party!
Invitations
Forget about inviting everyone you’ve ever met. This is an event for the special people in your life, so limit it to close family and longtime friends.
Wedding Party
For God’s sake, don’t have bridesmaids! Everyone already bought bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen tuxes for your wedding. You can still have your original maid of honor and best man stand up there with you if desired, or your children. (OK, pets too.)
Ask family members walk you down the aisle instead of taking the stroll alone. It’s also a good idea to skip the long, traditional ceremony and instead keep things fun and light.
Gifts
Do you really need another waffle iron? Um, no. If people want to give you gifts, fine, but don’t expect them, and definitely don’t register, which is all kinds of tacky.
Reception
Why pass up the chance to throw a big party? Whether you have a backyard barbeque, family dinner, elegant cocktail reception, or a destination renewal, remember to have fun. Party like a rock star with plenty of dancing, food and drink. Make ties to the past with photographs and videos, and toast those who have been important to you throughout your union.
Enjoy saying yes…again!
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