Your wedding is all about you and your future hubby, so why not make the event as personal as you want? Check out three easy steps for creating the personalized wedding of your dreams, and have fun!
Step One: You and Your Husband as Ceremony Participants
The beauty of a wedding ceremony is partially about the couple’s words to each other! Creating a setting that showcases your love for each other always results in a magical ceremony, and it’s important that you both remain active in ceremony planning. Several options are available for making this happen, no matter nervous you are! For example:
Say a few words of welcome at the beginning of the ceremony thanking everyone in attendance.
Write a brief, personal statement of commitment to one another before reciting traditional vows, or write your own vows!
Share a reading with everyone, whether recited by you or your groom, or both of you!
Step Two: Involving Family and Friends
Another fantastic way to personalize your wedding is to get family and friends involved in the actual ceremony. Invite a musician friend or family member to play a piece during the ceremony, or have someone read passages from favorite literature or scripture. Prayers and brief talks about marriage are also options. Mothers, children or grandparents can hold rings until the right time, or have a talented friend or family member sing. If one or both of you have teenage or grown children from previous relationships, have them light candles or participate in sand rituals.
A wedding is more than celebrating the commitment of two people. It is also about celebrating family and affirming their continued significance in your lives. In some ways, you and your groom are hosting a big family get-together where everyone gets to meet and have a great time. A few options for honoring family at your wedding include:
Make a big to-do about grandparents. Have them escorted to their seats if using ushers, and give them flowers. List them in printed programs, and don’t forget about listing parents and step-parents!
Acknowledge grandparents who have recently passed. Light candles in honor of loved ones, and perhaps say a few words about them, such as “Today we recognize that some family members are not physically present but join us in spirit. We give special thanks for [names of deceased family members].” These acknowledgements further cement your wedding as a family event.
Include your children. We already touched on candle and sand rituals, but those aren’t the only ways to incorporate your children into your ceremony. Have them stand up there with you or find another way to honor them.
Keep these three steps in mind when planning your wedding! The event can be as intimae as you like, so don’t hesitate to do what you feel is right to make the day as special as it should be.